He who expects, will only face regrets

A new favorite quotation of mine,

That I have happened to stumble upon.

While reading Oprah's book ‘Words that Matter’

Has really gotten me in thoughtful trance.

We all try our positivity and characteristics to enhance,

Even if bad times stumble upon us.

We continue to move forward,

We give happiness a chance.

What does it mean to disappoint?

To let someone so much down,

That you are the cause of their frown.

Or to be disappointed, filled with pessimistic thoughts in your head.

Why would we put ourselves through such negativity?

Do we not realize that with disappointment comes misery?

The quote was written by Alexander pope,

I value it so much; He has become a favored poet.

“Blessed is he who excpects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed”

Let that line sink into your head,

Wouldn’t you prefer to think this way?

To enable your mind to be strong.

 Not with disappointment to easily sway?

We should learn to replace expectations with gratitude,

I am happy the sun does shine,.

But if with morrow comes rain I shall not whine.

Because it is natural for weather to change,

I cannot expect for the universe to go alone with my preferred weather.

Therefore each and every occurrence I will treasure,

I hope you know I am not only doing about storms.

But I am applying this to my life,

This train of thought will help me become a better woman, mother and wife.

And possibly rid all disappointment, expectations and strife.

STOP! NO MORE MULTI TASKING!

As a writer I often edit other people’s resumes,

In order to assist them with their job application.

So that they can upgrade their financial situation.

And on every single resume I’ve seen to  this day,

One of the skills always written,

Is the ability to multi task.

To go from one requirement to the other fast,

I beg to differ to those who think this method of work is ideal,

Even my own boss expects me to work so fast as if time I could steal.

When we multitask, we are not doing both activities at the same time.

Our brain simply jumps from one side to the other.

which uses quite a bit of brain cells, and in essence slows you down.

If you listen to music while driving your focus lessens by 30%*.

In this fast past society we are always doing, running, accomplishing & overcoming.

We are on the go with tasks at hand,
 Ready to accomplish anything, to follow orders or commands.

Now just imagine how your brain looks when you are texting while driving.

In a 2008 University of Utah study, drivers took longer to reach their destinations when they chatted on cell phones.

Listen to what the psychologist who wrote this study said

multi tasking is like “a pie chart, and whatever we’re working on is going to take up the majority of that pie.

There’s not a lot left over for other things, with the exception of automatic behaviors like walking or chewing gum.”

Moving back and forth between several tasks actually wastes productivity, he says, because your attention is expended on the act of switching gears—plus, you never get fully “in the zone” for either activity. Guy Winch, PhD  

What will happen if we decide not to multi task anymore?

Will our work lack quality? Will we be late to complete our chore?

Say we give 100% and we learn to be mindful

To be mindful is to fully focus ones awareness on the present moment,
to be in a constant meditative state.

If you can achieve this, this too shall lower your stress rate

I’d like to be able to say I do not multi task.

I give my all to the job at hand so I can efficiently move onward.

Multi tasking overwhelms the brain and stresses us out.

So you are required to get a lot done in a short time span?

And you find yourself laughing at all I am saying

For you think you cannot do it all one thing at a time

Well then you do not understand the message I am conveying

I know what its like to have  long lists in my head

I have a demanding job

A beautiful yet so very busy child,

Who keeps me running around on my feet

Constantly doing things, until my tired body hits the bed

I can be there for my responsibilities while doing other less important things

But what does this accomplish? Even if more success it may bring

My brain will be a mess,

My priorities out of order

And the quality of my effort will be insufficient to what my capabilities are

For I can mutli taskingly do great

But if I fully focus on the present moment

 I can mindfully do amazing.

http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20707868,00.html

http://www.cnn.com/2015/04/09/health/your-brain-multitasking/

New Year SAME RESOLUTIONS

As you look at your list of new year goals,
Focus on the ones that will better you.
To eradicate bad behaviors,
We must replace them with new.

You may have a intellect as large as Brooklyn public library,
But all that knowledge is of no value.
If you don't take the first step of actions,
And apply those lessons to you.

I read so many books I devour them whole.
but reading and storing them in a file,
will not change me or make me filled with ambition.
all that intellect simply furthers me from my mission.

True change comes from within,
We need to want success, to have the desire to win.
Now you can consider yourself a failure,
Filled with pain to the brim.

Because your past actions have not been up to far?
So you've caused damage, despite coming so far?
If all you view yourself as, is your shortcomings,
Then one big pessimistic mass is all that you are!

But I think YOU KNOW BETTER!!
You are all the words your spouse has written in their love letter,
You are your success and positivity.
You are great simply for the desire to eradicate negativity.

To be able to change , love others and reach our goals.
With ourselves we must feel whole.
It is not selfish to love oneself.
It is selfless, for yours truly needs the most help.

Apply all the intellect you have in your head,
Replace all the bad behaviors,
Eradicate them with mindful peace making files instead.

There is no use stressing about others.
They are neither in your control,
Nor can they influence you from reaching your goals.
Only you are the captain of your ship!

Once you realize that, all your self destructive behaviors you can rip.
We all want to be great,
Even those that focus on hate instead of love,
They are simply focusing on the wrong side of the cup.

I wish you all lots of luck,
In the bettering you!
We are all a work in progress,
So even if you take one step forward, and 10 steps back, stay strong do not regress!

Happy Birthday!

Today is my Hebrew birthday!

I’d like to bless those around me,

To look inward, be aware of your greatness.

Discover that true happiness comes from within.

To be filled with overflowing positivity to the brim.

Truly live and be present in the moment,

 Not focusing on what took place in the past, or may occur in the future.

May your goals and comfort zone be far out of reach,

And may you achieve much success, that about success you will preach!

I hope you have appreciation simply for waking each day.

And the strength to hold your head high, when facing dismay.

The courage to get off the train of a negative state of mind.

To force a smile on your lips even when that’s the last thing you desire

And be thankful for all the relationships you acquire.

May your Hearts be content, and your belly full

Look for the good in others,  we are all each other’s sisters and brothers.

I Wish you all the very best,

We did not come to this world to rest.
Keep on checking off life’s tests!

Once upon a time...

The kings knees sunken  to the ground,
His broken wings he tries to fly.
As his cracked voice sings a lullaby.
His fallen face wet,
From a recent cry.
He looks up to the heavens,
And wonders why??

He has been clawed, &severely broken down.
His tired physique broken, dragged to the ground.

Where is his queen?
Who enviously stole his crown.
Took his ever smiling lips,
And banished them into a steady frown.
She's wrecked his morale, his attitude.
The clouds are grey,
When she hits that mood.

Although he tries with strength,
To pass each test.
Her best feature is to make,
Of him a mess.

His heart is caged,
For fear of pain.
His cries for help,
All gone in vain.

When will the sun shine on his kingdom?
When will he king become?

The queen is trapped,
By the demons of her brain.
Trying to move forward,
But her past keep her in a angry flame.

She causes damage,
Wherever she goes.
Turns all her friends into foes.
She is selfish, arrogant & unkind.

She learns new behaviors,
To alter her mind.
But her demons rock with laughter,
As positivity she tries to go after.

But she is shackled to the negative ground,
No savior to be found.
She must fight this battle on her own.
So her mighty king can claim his throne.
And together they can rebuild the ruins of their home!

Thursday Musings

Who Are We?

Do we identify ourselves by who we have become?

the results of our actions,

the constant thoughts we run?

Are we our goals and aspirations?

The way we handle difficult situations?

Are we our nature? our natural personality?

Or the person we aim to be?

Our thoughts create our future,

So is it our minds that define who we are?

Are we are our nurture?

The surrounding circle of family and friends?

Perhaps our morals define us

Despite often their authenticity we pretend?

Are we the person we choose to portray to the world?

The intellectual comments & advice we wish to be heard?

Are we the kindness we display?

The good we give each day?

The smiles we share in the hopes of lifting each other?

The words we speak to one another?

Bright lights, Mental fights

Flickers of light,

Like our wandering souls.

Lasting for days,

Like our New Year goals.

Every night we light another,

As together we celebrate,

And gift love to each other.

We sing and dine.

Indulging in Doughnuts, latkes and wine,

Reminiscing of the miracles of another time.

 8 days where we try our best,

To put worry to rest.

Placing smiles on our face,

Our Families we embrace.

The Month of Kislev One should try not to complain,

So that the rest of the year can follow the same

Routine of positivity.

But most of us leave our goals behind,

Leaving them to drown in the memory sea.

And jumping back into our monotone of reality.

We do as expected,

And have many ups and downs.

Often we laugh, frequently we frown.

This year I ask you to differ from the norm,

Take the beauty of Chanukah into your daily storm.

Reflect upon the spiritual light,

When your emotions have a fight.

Carry your head up high,

Cease the sorrow, wipe your cry.

Illuminate your life with the beauty of happiness.

Give yourself the mentality,

To be as positive as can be.

In order for light in your eyes shine,

Like the bright menorah’s during Chanukah time.